Empty nest? Retiring? Family issues? Divorce? Estrangement? Want to follow a passion instead of a job? All life is change. We all must adapt and grow. Most of us are forced into change at least a few times in our lives. A long time ago, I learned something about change. Other than aging (yet there are 1 or 2 benefits to that, too), my life was better afterward.
There are two ways I try to help since I have done change so many times (most of which were not by choice):
- Small group renewal retreats and transition workshops – find more info on those things here: Vida Real Center
- I have a series of books coming out – they are short, funny (I’m told), illustrated by me (stick people mostly) and outline the path I took that maybe will work for you, too.
The Retreats — How did that happen? You can read my backstory here on my Retreats website where I facilitate (typically with a business partner) small group retreats to fun and interesting places (often all women but men are good, too) .
The Books — How did that happen? Well, I write anyway – have for 30 years. Much of that has been business related – in fact, technology business related. Not sure I can explain how tired I am of writing about driving digital disruption, actionable analytics, and microservice architecture…zzzzzz
But… and here is a funny thing. It’s about serendipity and this is something I pay attention to. Something happened about 5 years ago. I was at a court hearing – a probate thing – I don’t know why they bothered – there were no assets and I got nothing … Anyway, we were sitting at a table in a small courtroom with a bunch of people waiting their turn for a hearing. The judge asked me a few questions about my income (I had said “writer” on the form).
“What do you write?” he says.
“Boring stuff mostly – business, hr packages, onboarding docs, marketing copy …”, I shrugged bored with the definition of my own response.
Okay. We were all done and excused by the judge and filed past him like a heard of cows. As I passed him, he spoke to me – the judge was saying something. I turned toward him and said, “I’m sorry I didn’t hear you.”
He smiled and repeated his words, “I think you should write something else.”
OMG. The judge had advice for me! A random comment that mattered to me more than he would ever know! His comment came at just the right time in my life. Sort of an unofficial mentor. And no, I really don’t think that was a flirt – why would he bother? I was walking out of a court room never to return, not sitting at a bar alone staring at my Caribbean Martini. Besides, I am well over the age of incoming random flirts.
So, I recently semi-retired. Sort-of (but not really – I still have clients) and started this book that has now turned into a series. I have written and published a few things over the years, so it is not completely foreign to me.
The bigger story is that soon after this court experience, I bought a trailer and traveled by myself for over a year. I called the trailer the writer’s retreat. A little trailer seemed like a good place for me to start a big life change, partially because I am an introvert. No, that is not a mental illness – it’s just a personality type I’ve had to learn to manage in a world full of extroverts, magniloquent engineers, close talkers and drama queens. I apologize if any of those terms relate to you. I am not a recluse or socially awkward, but I have always needed to find ways to have more control over my time. I love spending time with others, but I also like my time alone to think and revitalize my soul.