Need to make a change in your life? Empty nest? Retiring? Family issues? Divorce? Follow a passion instead of a job? All life is change. We all must adapt and grow. Are you ready for a change? There are two ways I can help: through small group transition and renewal retreats or a self-help version by utilizing my book: The Self-Guided Life Transition.
How did this happen? You can read my backstory here on my Retreats website, where I facilitate (typically with a business partner) small group women’s retreats. But the book started a long time ago but I only recently put it on paper. It started because I am an introvert. No, that is not a mental illness – it’s just a personality type I’ve had to learn to manage in a world full of extroverts. I am NOT a recluse or socially awkward. I have lots of friends and I have a thriving career, but I have always needed to find ways to have more control over my time. I love spending time with others, but I also like my time alone to think and revitalize my soul. After navigating many changes in my life (it seems like I had more than most), I decided to take the process I used and put it in book form.
The Self-Guided Life Transition will be coming out soon. I am in the process of making a bit interactive. In other words, some things in the book will relate to a web page with additional resources you can download free and use during your personal retreat. Questions?
Wait. What is a personal retreat?
A personal retreat is a self-initiated retreat (a weekend is recommended). It is simply time to sit with yourself, without distraction, to reflect and renew. It is about creating time for yourself – time to think and consider goals and options and action plans or simply enjoy quiet time. It is the first phase of a season of transition. The book will guide you step-by-step.
How can that even happen? Doesn’t a retreat involve a guru of some sort and a standby onsite psychologist?
You are your own guru. You know yourself better than anyone and if you allow your higher consciousness to dig deep you can find the answers to all your own questions. However, if you feel you need a psychologist, by all means get one now. If you are seriously depressed, please get professional help. That said, I think many/most people are very capable of seeing themselves through the usual storms of human life. It’s all a matter of how you label your storm. We all have similar transitions to make. Some of us have past or current situations that may make some storms more difficult to weather. But it can be done.
The reality today is that, according to the DSM-5 (the bible of the mental health industry), most of us fall on a spectrum of some type of mental illness. Seriously, that is the accepted belief. Well, I don’t believe that. I believe there is far more capability inside your brain than you give yourself credit for. You can find ways out of your challenges. The problem is that most people want answers today — or at least this week — and that is unrealistic.
What is the book about?
The book is a guide to help you work through a new phase of your life or re-awaken and help you balance your life. It is written for a daily practice or a weekend of personal time. It will help you put some things in perspective and decide if these are things you want to change or learn to accept and adapt. Many of our issues are about re-framing how we think about them because some things cannot be changed — they are not in our control.
Is the book based in some form or religious or new age rituals?
No, not at all. You will not need to perform any ceremonies. It does not delve into prediction cards or require the use of ritual objects. If you want to use any of these objects, do so. If they help you focus or serve as reminders, then use them. You will not need any special objects other than a journal. You will not need to have any special artistic talents or the agility for a yoga headstand. You will only give yourself two mental hugs. You will not need any glitter at all.